We had some friends over today. They are conservative and hold many views similar to mine. And the conversation turned to why we home school. (They are a home schooling parent’s too.)
I told him that we finally made the decision to home school because there was way too many problems with the school. The first year we homeschooled, I talked with one of the 1st grade teachers, and she told me that she had at least 2 kids in her class that has sexual issues. THIS IS 1ST GRADE (6 YEAR OLDS!)
My friend asked me what I thought was the reason for such prevalence of sexual problems at this school. “Is it poverty?” he asked.
That sent my mind a wondering.
Almost 10 years ago, I had two different jobs (at different times) that lead me to work with at least 10 different boys who were in state custody for sexual misconduct. I learned a lot in that year, and I feel that I have a keen understanding of what makes the sexual predator tick.
First of all, I learned that children under about the age of 10 who have issues with sexually inappropriate behavior learned such behavior in only one way. And that is because they themselves have been victims. Thus, most likely these 2 six year olds who are acting out sexually were once victimized (most likely by someone in their home or family).
That took me to a second thing that I learned, and that was that sexual predators usually perpetrate because they believe that they have a right to do so. They think that they are entitled to commit the offense because society (or the victim) has hurt them.
That is the one thing that sexual predators and the poor have in common. They have a sense of entitlement. They both feel like something is owed to them because they have been wronged some how.
I don’t point this out to say that all poor people will become sexual predators. But more to say that our culture of entitlement is what has lead to the increase in sexual predation in our society.
We are often told that the increase in reports is because people are educated about what is wrong and they are more likely to report. Some might even say that sexual inappropriate material in the media increases the rate of criminal activity (and I happen to think that it does to an extent). However, I strongly feel that it probably has more to do with our cultural emphasis on entitlement that has lead to the increase in sex crimes.